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What happened
Jessica Fern's book 'Polysecure' delves into the dynamics of consensual nonmonogamy and polyamory, providing insights into how these relationship structures can be both secure and fulfilling. The book explores attachment theory in the context of polyamorous relationships and challenges traditional perceptions of love and commitment.
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Key insights
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Attachment Theory in Polyamory
Fern discusses how attachment theory, traditionally used to understand monogamous relationships, can be applied to polyamorous contexts. She argues that understanding one's attachment style can help navigate the complexities of multiple relationships.
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Redefining Relationship Norms
The book challenges the conventional notion that monogamy is the only way to experience love and security. It presents polyamory as a viable and rewarding alternative for those who choose it.
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Emotional Security in Nonmonogamy
'Polysecure' emphasizes that emotional security is possible in nonmonogamous arrangements. Fern provides strategies for establishing trust and maintaining emotional safety in polyamorous relationships.